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Boundaries in Relationships: Your Key to Happier and Healthier Connections

Shot of a happy young couple relaxing on a sofa and spending time together at home.

Boundaries in Relationships: Your Key to Happier and Healthier Connections

Relationships have always been at the heart of human existence. Boundaries play a vital role in creating happier and healthier connections.

Boundaries are invisible lines we draw to maintain our sense of self and well-being. There are various types of boundaries: physical and emotional boundaries. Physical boundaries include personal space and personal needs. An example would be resting when tired. Emotional boundaries are limits you place on how you give and receive your emotional energy. Validating the feelings of others is a way to show emotional boundaries. Intellectual boundaries refer to respect for people’s ideas. Acknowledging and respecting that others have a perspective which may differ from your own is one way to show intellectual boundaries. Sexual boundaries include asking for consent. Financial/material boundaries include limiting how your possessions are treated. Time boundaries encompass the amount of time you give to other people.

Impact of Unhealthy Boundaries in Relationships

If healthy boundaries are not established in relationships, it may lead to emotional exhaustion and unhealthy relationships. You may feel like you’re being exploited when people do not respect your space, time or opinions. Losing your sense of self may be a fear that keeps you up at night as you try to keep accommodating others. You may even feel like you are not living a genuine, authentic life. These fears can significantly impact your emotional health.

Benefits of Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

Establishing healthy boundaries provides a sense of empowerment as you advocate for your needs. Relationship communication improves as individuals are more transparent and open about their needs. An improved emotional well-being is experienced as your emotional needs are met.

How to Establish Healthy Boundaries

The first step is to understand your own needs and limits. Self-awareness and reflection help you to decipher what you tolerate. The next step is to have open, honest and transparent communication. Set clear expectations about your limitations and the consequences of not honoring them. This is an excellent way for you to advocate for yourself. Learn to say no when others push your limits. Respect is a two-way street, so ensure you respect others’ boundaries.

Additional Support for Setting Boundaries in Relationships

Creating boundaries can be challenging. You may need the support of a professional you can confide in and receive valuable insight and strategies to develop firm boundaries in your relationships.

At Sage River Psychotherapy, therapy is about making connections that heal. We know it doesn’t feel good to be alone, to be marginalized, hurt, disbelieved, or punished for using your voice. As people, we are designed to depend on each other. Like the tree that needs connection with the soil to spread its roots and the sun and the water to nourish its leaves and branches, we need the same connection to the elements in life that nourish our essence. We all need to love and be loved, to experience freedom within who we are, and to feel the empowerment that comes from living authentically as you.

Whatever has happened to you, know that we see you. Your feelings are real. We can help you understand your feelings and learn what you need when feeling them. When you can listen to what is inside you without fear, you feel more alive, and your relationships – your connections – become safer, more compassionate, and more authentic. When you experience a new way to handle what is breaking you apart – you rewire the connection within yourself – and this is where healing begins.

Therapy will help you hold and process what has happened to you (is happening to you) and build the connections you need to heal.

Stay as long as you need.